50th Birthday Gift Ideas for Mom

At 50, many moms are finally getting a little time back. The kids are older, the house is quieter, and she may not quite know what to do with herself yet. The best 50th birthday gift for mom celebrates the woman she is now, not only the mom she has been. Our top pick is a song about her, because she has spent decades hearing about everyone else, and here are 11 more ideas to go with it.

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12 50th birthday gift ideas for mom

1. A song about the woman she is ($39.90). Who she was before she had kids, the plans she put on hold, the laugh you can hear from two rooms away. Share it, and Songbond turns it into an original song.
2. A spa weekend with her sisters or best friends. Two nights, massages booked, and nobody asking her what is for dinner. Usually $200 to $600 per person.
3. A charm bracelet, one charm per chapter. Her hometown, her wedding, each child, the family dog. Add a new charm on every birthday after this one. Usually $80 to $300 to start.
4. A trip with just her and her grown kids. A city weekend or a beach house, like the old days before everyone moved out. Usually $300 to $1,200.
5. Eight weeks of lessons in something creative. Pottery on the wheel, watercolor or stained glass. A course usually runs $150 to $350, and she gets one evening a week that is only hers.
6. A leather tote she would never buy herself. Something well made that she can carry for the next ten years. Usually $150 to $400.
7. Flowers every month for a year. A bouquet on her doorstep on the same date each month, so the birthday keeps going. Usually $40 to $70 a delivery.
8. A cashmere wrap. Soft, warm and in her favorite color, for cold planes and drafty restaurants. Usually $100 to $250.
9. Lunch with her high-school best friend. Track down the friend she lost touch with and set up a surprise lunch. It costs a meal, and it may be the best hour of her year.
10. A photoshoot just for her. Hair, makeup and a photographer, with no kids in the frame. Usually $200 to $500, and she finally gets photos of herself she likes.
11. Theater tickets and dinner in the city. Pick the show she has mentioned twice this year. Usually $150 to $400 for two.
12. An e-reader loaded with books. Fill it with the novels her friends keep telling her about. Usually $100 to $200.

How to choose for Mom's 50th

Listen for what she says she misses. At fifty, a lot of moms talk about the friends they drifted from, the hobbies they dropped and the trips they never took. The right gift gives one of those back.

• If she misses her people: the spa weekend, the trip with her kids or the lunch with her old friend.
• If she wants something for herself: the lessons, the photoshoot or the tote.
• If she is sentimental: the song, the charm bracelet or the monthly flowers.

How to collect 50 messages without her finding out

A lovely 50th tradition is gathering messages from the people in her life. Start a month early. Make a list of 50 names from her work, her neighbors, her old school friends and her family, and ask your dad or a sibling to help find contact details. Send one short request: two or three sentences about a time she made a difference to them. Set a deadline a week before her birthday. Collect the replies at an email address she will never see, print each one on a card and tie the stack with ribbon. Read a few aloud at dinner and let her keep the rest for later.

Make Mom's 50th birthday song

Create a 50th birthday song for your mom. Tell us about her, and her song is ready within 24 hours. If the celebration is tomorrow, express delivery gets it to you in about an hour.

Also in the Journal: 50th birthday songs and birthday songs for Mom.