Birthday Gift Ideas for a Daughter From Her Dad

A lot of dads leave the birthday shopping to someone else and just sign the card. This year you want the gift to come from you. The best birthday gifts from a dad to his daughter are the ones only you could give: your time, a skill you have, or the words you usually keep to yourself. Our top pick is a song from you, because it says those words when you would rather not.

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12 birthday gift ideas for your daughter, from dad

1. A song from dad ($39.90). Share the name you called her when she was small, the drives to practice and the day you let go of the back of her bike. Songbond turns it into an original song from you to her.
2. A breakfast date that becomes a tradition. The same diner every birthday, just the two of you. It costs a plate of pancakes and she will still expect it at 40.
3. Her own toolkit, and an afternoon to use it. A hammer, screwdrivers, a level and a tape measure in a box with her name on it. Then spend an hour in the driveway teaching her to change a tire. Usually $40 to $100.
4. A year of oil changes on you. A very dad gift, and one she will thank you for every three months. Usually $150 to $300 for the year.
5. Tickets to a game together. Her team or yours, good seats, hot dogs. Usually $50 to $200 for two.
6. A day outdoors with you. A fishing trip, a long hike to a view, a night of camping. Bring the good snacks and leave the phones in the car.
7. Flowers, signed Dad. Delivered to her work or her door. It is a small thing, and she will tell people about it. Usually $40 to $80.
8. A lesson in the thing you are good at. Grilling a proper steak, a golf swing, three chords on the guitar. Your skill, passed on, with your bad jokes included.
9. Money toward the thing she is saving for. A car, a trip, a first apartment deposit. Put it in a card with a line about how proud you are that she is saving.
10. A dance lesson for the two of you. Useful if a wedding is ever on the horizon, and funny if it is not. Usually $50 to $120.
11. A turntable and a few records from your youth. Play her the songs you played in the car when she was little. Usually $100 to $200 to start.
12. An old photo of the two of you, restored and framed. The faded one of her on your shoulders, cleaned up and printed properly. Usually $30 to $70.

How to choose as her dad

Think about how the two of you spend time together, or used to. Some dads and daughters talk best while doing something. Others need a keepsake that says it plainly. If she is newly on her own, practical help from you means more than you might guess.

• If she likes doing things with you: the breakfast date, the game or the day outdoors.
• If she is starting out on her own: the toolkit, the oil changes or the money toward her goal.
• If she is sentimental: the song, the restored photo or the flowers.

What to say when you hand it over

Many dads freeze at this part, so keep it short and plan one sentence. Start with a memory, then say the plain thing. Something like: "I still think about the day you learned to swim. I am proud of you." Or: "You were the loudest baby in the hospital, and you still make every room better." Say it before she opens the gift, not after, so it does not get lost. If you cannot say it, write it on the card in your own handwriting and sign it Dad.

Make her a song from dad

Create a birthday song for your daughter. Tell us about her and it is ready within 24 hours. If the birthday is tomorrow, express delivery gets it to you in about an hour.

Also in the Journal: father-daughter dance songs and milestone birthday song ideas.