Christmas Gifts for an Elderly Woman

Buying for an older woman at Christmas is hard because she usually says she needs nothing, and her shelves are already full. The best Christmas gift for an elderly woman is one that makes her days warmer, easier or more connected to the people she loves. Here are 12 ideas that do that, most of them simple. Our top pick is a song about her own life, because it gives her something no store sells: her story, told back to her.

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12 Christmas gift ideas for an elderly woman

1. A song about her life ($39.90). You share the stories: the town she grew up in, how she met her husband, the dish she still makes every December. Songbond turns it into an original song, ready within 24 hours, and you can play it for her at the table on Christmas Day.
2. A digital photo frame, already loaded. Fill it with family photos before you wrap it, and set it up so relatives can send new pictures straight to it. She never has to touch a setting. Usually $60 to $150.
3. A heated throw with an automatic shut-off. Many older women feel the cold first. Pick one with large, simple controls. Usually $40 to $90.
4. Large-print books by an author she already loves. Or a stack of large-print crosswords and word searches for the long winter afternoons. Usually $10 to $25 each.
5. A year of hair appointments. Book and pay for a standing visit with the stylist she trusts. For many women this is the outing of the month, and she gets to look forward to it twelve times.
6. Slippers with a firm, non-slip sole. Look for a closed back and a real rubber sole. They are safer than soft moccasins on hard floors. Usually $30 to $70.
7. Her own recipes, printed as a book. Collect her handwritten recipe cards, scan them and have them bound, stains and all. Give her one copy and keep one for the family. Usually $30 to $60.
8. A bird feeder outside her favorite window. Add a season of seed and a small bird guide. It gives her something to watch every morning with her coffee. Usually $25 to $60.
9. A soft wrap or shawl. Wool, fleece or cashmere, in a color she already wears. Easy to keep over a chair or wear to church. Usually $40 to $120.
10. Stationery with the stamps already on. Pre-address a few envelopes to the grandchildren so writing back takes no effort at all. Usually $20 to $40.
11. Fresh flowers once a month. A small arrangement or a potted plant delivered each month through the winter. Usually $30 to $60 a delivery.
12. A lighted magnifier. If she still sews, knits or reads the paper, a hands-free lighted magnifier gives her back the fine detail. Usually $20 to $50.

How to choose for the life she has now

Picture a normal Tuesday for her. What she does in the morning, where she sits, and what has become harder in the last year or two. The gift that fits that day will get used. The gift that fits the woman she was at 50 may sit in a drawer.

• If she lives on her own: the heated throw, the slippers or the bird feeder.
• If she lives in a care home: the photo frame, the flowers or the song. Space is small, so pick things for the wall or the windowsill, and check with staff before giving anything that plugs in.
• If she misses her family: the stationery, the recipe book or the song.

How to give a song to someone who rarely uses a phone

Many women in their 80s and 90s do not stream music, and that is fine. Play the song for her yourself, on your phone through a small speaker, after the meal when the room is quiet. Tell her first that it is about her. Sit next to her, not across the room, so she can hear every word. Afterwards, ask a grandchild to play it for her on each visit. If she likes to keep things she can hold, the printed plaque of the song can sit on her shelf beside the family photos.

Make a song for her this Christmas

Create a song about her life. Tell us her stories and her song is ready within 24 hours. There is no shipping and no cutoff date: express delivery gets it to you in about an hour, even on Christmas Eve.

Also in the Journal: songs for an 80th or 90th birthday and a personalized song as a Christmas gift.