Wedding Day Gift for the Groom From the Bride

While you are getting ready with your people, he is somewhere across town trying to tie a tie and pretending he is not nervous. A wedding day gift for the groom from the bride is a small, personal thing he gets before the ceremony that settles him and reminds him why he is there. The best ones are easy to carry, easy to wear, or easy to hear in a hotel room full of groomsmen. Here are 12 ideas. Our top pick is a song about the two of you, because it gives him a few quiet minutes with you before he sees you walk in.

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12 wedding day gift ideas for your groom

1. A song about the two of you ($39.90). Share how you met, the moment you knew and the promises you want to make, and Songbond turns it into an original song. It is ready within 24 hours, so there is time even in the last week.
2. A letter he reads while getting dressed. One page, in your handwriting, delivered by his best man. Free.
3. Cufflinks engraved with the date. Or with your initials on one and his on the other. Usually $40 to $200.
4. A message sewn inside his jacket. A small fabric label stitched into the lining with the date and one line from you. About $20 to $50, plus a tailor.
5. A watch for the day and every day after. Choose something simple enough to wear to work, and engrave the back. Usually $150 to $500.
6. A bottle and glasses for a toast with his groomsmen. Something he likes, with a note asking them to raise a glass before the ceremony. About $60 to $150.
7. Socks with a secret. Custom socks printed with your dog's face or an inside joke, for the moment he sits down and his trousers ride up. About $15 to $30.
8. A tie clip with your initials. Small, visible in the photos and worn for years. About $30 to $80.
9. A journal for your first year of marriage. Write the first entry yourself, about this morning. About $40 to $80.
10. A hot-towel shave booked for the morning. An hour at a barber for him and his best man, so he walks in calm and clean. About $40 to $80 each.
11. An empty frame for your first photo as a married couple. Engrave the date on it and tell him what goes inside. About $30 to $60.
12. A pocket square with your initials stitched in the corner. In your wedding colors, hand-embroidered, tucked into his top pocket for every photo. About $20 to $50.

How to choose a gift for your groom

Think about the state he will be in that morning. A nervous groom needs something that calms him. A sentimental one needs a moment alone. A practical one wants something he will use on the day and long after.

• If he is nervous: the letter, the song or the hot-towel shave.
• If he loves details: the cufflinks, the tie clip or the pocket square.
• If he is the joker: the socks, the toast bottle or the message in his jacket.

What to write in the wedding morning letter

Keep it to one page, and write it by hand the week before, not the night before. Start with a memory: the first time you saw him, or the moment you knew. Then say what you are looking forward to, in small and specific terms, like slow Sunday mornings or the dog you will finally get. Add one line about today, something like “In an hour I will be walking toward you. Look up.” End with the words you want him to hear right before the ceremony. Seal it, write his name on the front and give it to his best man with a time to deliver it.

Give him a song before the ceremony

Create a wedding song for your groom. Share your story, and the song is ready within 24 hours. If the wedding is tomorrow, express delivery gets it to you in about an hour.

Also in the Journal: songs from the bride to the groom and first dance songs.